The Simplicity of ‘It’s Okay’

by Salem

| August 6, 2021 |

“The nectar of compassion is so wonderful. If you are committed to keeping it alive, then you are protected. What the other person says will not touch off the anger and irritation in you, because compassion is the real antidote for anger.” -Thich Nhat Hanh-

 

There have been many periods of transition in my life when I felt utterly alone. I tried so hard to make peace with myself during those times. In fact, I really found a path in this life that supports me a great deal. However, the age-old demons that plague everyone in this life, like fear and anger, take their toll.

 

Time has a way of grabbing hold of our thoughts and feelings and squeezing tight till we are out of breath. Fear rises up. And then there is a mad scramble to protect ourselves. To control. What we don’t realize is that we are giving our strength away. We forget who we are and take on an identity associated with fear and anger. Fear or anger shouldn’t necessarily be shunned, but we should greet it with compassion and patience. We cheapen our essence by shutting out fear in ignorance. 

 

It took me a while to slowly wake up to the fact that compassion for myself is the very protection I seek from my fears. Fears that I might not even understand half the time because they spring forth from my imagination.

 

It’s okay to lose our balance, but when we do, instead of being critical and judgmental, we can mindfully choose to approve of ourselves. We can concentrate our energy on self-compassion when we make mistakes instead of taking out our anger on ourselves. David Kessler once posed the questions: ”What if we started taking some chances, if we stepped into our fears? What if we went further, if we were to pursue our dreams follow our desires? And if we allowed ourselves to experience love freely and to find fulfillment in our relationships? What kind of world would this be?” 

 

Sometimes the only way forward is to move through our fears. We can embrace them and still proceed on our journey. It doesn’t have to be a paralyzing process that zaps all our strength away. We are new each morning. We have the opportunity each day to open to life. To BE. When we find that our strength is gone we can whisper to ourselves, “It’s okay.” Then we find that place of belonging. That safe place within where our soul can breathe.

 

I would like to conclude with another quote, “Now is the only real moment we have, and love is the only real emotion because it’s the only one that occurs in the present moment.Fear is always based on something that happened in the past and causes us to be afraid of something we think may happen in the future. To live in the present, then, is to live in love, not fear. That’s our goal, to live in love. And we can work toward that goal by learning to love ourselves. Infusing ourselves with love begins the washing away of our fears.” -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

 

Live the breath, my friends. 

Salem Islas-Madlo

Salem Islas-Madlo

Salem Islas-Madlo is founder of Deep Wild Coaching as well as a Xicana poet, writer, educator, speaker and holistic energy coach who works with women and femmes awakening to the gift of their presence. She is dedicated to holding space and supporting people to lean into the wholeness of their emotional truth, intuitive wisdom, and instinctual self-belief. Her work is based on a solid foundation of compassionate mindfulness that gently guides her clients to connect intimately with their intuition, life-force energy, creative power, deep wild nature, and Mother Earth. Visit her at https://deepwildcoaching.com or say hello over at Instagram https://www.instagram.com/deepwildcoaching/

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